Gyan Bhandar - 3

3 Fucks a day

With only so many hours in a day, most of the days it feels we are running short of time in a day.

Is it that we are really racing against time with our "perceived" rubbing our ass off everyday, or are we wasting our time taking shit and dealing with nonsense?

What if we have the choice to use 3 fucks a day! What will happen the most if you give a fuck to few things each day..

- Quit that boring job!

- Say No to that nagging client!

- Get out of that toxic relation!

- Shut the Laptop after 07:00 PM and go for a Drink in the middle of the Week!

- Stop massaging Ego of a swollen-headed Customer/Manager!

- Get out of the Car and Slap that unruly driver!

- Show middle finger to the Cops waiting like Hyenas on the Streets!

- Ask that noisy neighbour to stop being a pain in the ass!

- Take No Bullshit!

Despite all irritants, when we choose to give a fuck about everything, then we feel as though we are perpetually entitled to feel comfortable and happy at all times, that’s when life fucks us.

Karma

Read somewhere of an example of Karma...A Bird when alive eats Ants, when the Bird is dead, Ants eat the Bird.

How is this Karma for the Bird? The Ants are eating a dead meat.

Karma is something that gets back to you for your deeds, the Bird is already dead, so it doesn't really matter!

A couple having a special child in our apartment, and that child constantly screams through out the day...the young parents few times handle the kid with patience, and most of the other times violently silence him.

Is it their Karma to take care of the Child and they also suffer along with the child for life time? Or is it morally ok for them to leave the Kid at a Care Center?

There are approximately 10 Crores children globally with special needs!

Deja Vu

Have come across number of movies and stories, where storytellers are found playing with the idea and concept of Deja Vu.

In those stories, people relive a moment multiple times. A particular episode just repeats itself, the protagonist feels he / she just saw this happening a moment ago.

This french word "Deja Vu" literally means "already seen".

Have you ever experienced Deja vu?

What if we know what is coming, not the gut feeling, but you have already seen it happening for real.

Though it can be attributed as a fantasy, if experienced for real, is it scarier to precisely know what's happening around, by scene? Will it do any good to predict a future event and help in course correction?

What could happen if we were to have this gift of knowing the next scene of your life, or already lived that moment?

Avoid road accidents, save lives, win bids, bet on sports...

The best part, we could avoid that fight/argument with spouse!

Length of Life or Quality of Life?

"Babumushai, Zindagi badi honi chahiye, lambi nahin."

An iconic dialog, very simple yet extremely powerful.

We all are by default wired to plan long term, plan for retirement, plan for future, plan funds for health issues in old age, compromising health today, as we slog almost all day.

It is futile to argue if long term planning, stability, earning for tomorrow is important OR living in the present, living the moment is important.

There are no right or wrong answers, it's just our perspectives:

- Savings or Investment?

- Linear Growth or Exponential Growth?

- Stability or Change?

- Start-up or Stable Job?

- Farm House or Pent House?

- 4 days (12 hrs a day) or 5 days (10 hrs a day) working days in a week?

- Gym or Yoga?

- Building that dream home draining life savings or Travelling the world and visiting places every 6 months?

The art of Communication

While we in Corporate world stress on the art of communication, and harp on the art of listening being extremely important for effective communication, I see elders around me giving two hoots to this.

Especially when my mom and my aunts engage in conversations, it is usually monologues from both sides. Both constantly speak on their own with continuous overlaps, without bothering to listen, comprehend what the other person is saying.

Yet, they both happily come out with satisfaction in their faces that they had a good time catching up and sharing!

It's probably more to do with the language and voice that's falling on their ears that's making them comfortable, than the actual content. The oldies just need a pair of ears to share and an outlet.

Good music, kind words soothes our mood. Spritual chants and sounds helps us connect with divine. Bad, sad and chocking news makes us disturbed and scared.

Our ears unfortunately doesn't have any lids that can stop us consuming negative words, hurful, hateful conversations.

We should only feel lucky we can't hear what other's have in their mind!

All of us yearn for that voice/sound/music, that is tranquillizing, what's yours?