Monday, February 13, 2023

Gyan Bhandar - Part 5

What you seek, what you preach

- Money doesn't matter: for rich people.
- Looks doesn't matter: for attractive people.
- Size and body shape doesn't matter: for a chiseled body.
- Colour doesn't matter: for a fair person.
- Job satisfaction is more important than Salary: for someone who is paid well.
- Religion, Security is more important than price rise: for someone who is not impacted by policies.
- The married ones say "lucky that you are not married".
- Couple with children say "you are better off without kids".
- "It is better to stay home and be safe": for those who don't need to step out to earn for the living.
- "Plan your finances better": to an entrepreneur by an MNC Employee, who doesn't need to worry about paying salaries, taxes and Vendors every single month.
- "I can imagine what you are going through": someone who has never experienced a loss.
No one has figured out everything. People can only act that they do, and advice, judge based on this assumption.
Probably preaching based on real life experience makes more sense, else it just becomes free Gyan!

Are you meant to make it big?

Do you have it in you to make it big?
Are you meant to make it big?
Some of us know and believe we are above average and not mediocres and think we can achieve bigger things in life, say chase a dream or taste success.
Though success is subjective, we all set our own benchmarks and targets.
And this is the moment the struggle starts, which is draining and exasperating. Probably being mediocre and content would be more easier than believing we deserve much more in life.
Hard work is important, but we know it alone cannot take you places. You need ____ and _____. I leave you to fill in the dashes based on your life experiences.
"Success cannot be achieved overnight", no one is expecting it as well, but if the struggle becomes eternal, self introspection makes sense.
Sometimes the passion required to reach the goals, also becomes a drama down the road.
As Morpeous tells Neo "Stop trying to hit me, and hit me"!

Wired to Fight

As some believe in enjoying the journey than the destination, here the destination is supposed to be what you strive to reach, which is presumably rewarding.
If you like the struggle more than what you struggled for, it needs introspection on the self pity towards the journey.
When you fall from the top of a mountain, you feel you are flying for a long time, until you realise your fate later. This is to me is enjoying the journey, though the destination is known to be fatal.
When you are playing in the beach and a Tsunami hits, would you try running for your life, from a 60 Foot tall wave? Do you really think you can outrun? Or rather enjoy the enormity, beauty of the sight, and look for a surf board to rather surf through it?
We all are by default wired to fight it out, and never give up.

Kafkaesque



Being opinionated, having a different view on the world is not always being strange/being different. It's probably just that I believe I am right and I damn very well know I am right, and I have all the reason and logic to justify why I am right.
The question is, do I have to balls to stand firm on my belief and tell the entire world they are wrong? And it's ok to believe that everyone else is wrong, except you on few things.
Just because a mass of people believe blindly in something or follow something blindly, it is perfectly alright not to agree with them.
This phenomenon is called "Kafkaesque".
We have our own thoughts, principles, belief systems, reasoning but they begin to fall apart, when you find yourself against a force that does not lend itself to the way you perceive the world.
What you do is struggle against this with all of your logic, stand a unwinnable ground, but of course you don't stand a chance. That's Kafkaesque!

When to shut your mouth!
We all get excited and eager to engage, give opinion, offer advise thinking we would help the situation by our utterances. It's rather tempting to jump in with our views. Many a times, we will do more harm than cool the situation just by speaking up.
- When you have tried enough to explain to someone, but that person is in a different state of mind and refuses to understand, just shut up.
- When someone is caring for you, looking after you, instead of being ashamed, be thankful and shut up.
- When someone is angry, in rage, to calm them down, just shut up.
- Shut up when you are unsure and undecided.
- When someone is emotional, pouring out, do not advice, shut up and listen.
- When someone is talking negative about someone else, don't interfere, but just shut up.
- When you see no logic, common sense in the conversation or argument, just shut up.

The indispensable

How indispensable are you at your place of work?
Can anybody do the work that you do?
If it's the same job, same activities that you have been doing for 5, 10+ years, what more skills, talent, abilities have you added?
Irrespective of the role, department, what more or how better do you carry out your job?
Even if you are a Coder and the primary scope has still to do with coding, or a sales executive at a showroom, will the client prefer to deal with you, than everyone else?
If each of us can answer these 5 questions, it might help understand where we stand:
- What part of the job that you do, are you very good at?
- Is what you are good at, something that you love doing as well?
- What part of the job that you do, is most productive for the organisation?
- What part of the job that you don't like to do, yet organisation benefits the most from the work?
- How many are you dependant on to do your job? And how many depend on you to do their job?

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