Sexuality, Sensuality

Skimpy Women

This trend of skimpy clad / barely clothed women has been making rounds on Instagram for sometime now.

When those celebrities, actresses bare it all on Insta, probably we don't see it to be abnormal, as we are used to it and accept as norm in the glam industry.

The trend is now quickly spilling out of Insta, and we can see such barely dressed ordinary women on the streets & Pubs.

With trendsetters like Urfijaved or the newest craze to travel on Metro trains, How are we supposed to see this? Sometimes I feel it's fine and few other times I am concerned.

This is what few on various social media platform has to say:

- Cultural genocide/victims of women empowerment

- Life has come full circle, people are going back to pre-civilization days

- Let them choose what they want to wear, we aren't Talibans

- Problem with parvarish

- It's a sense of security a girl feels in public.

- In this chaotic life, just see it as Live Entertainment and chill!

What's your take?

The place to rest

You know my favourite place to rest? It's the place nothing but the best, Everytime I am there, it feels like a nest, That place is on my woman's chest. It's like a playground, I will be spellbound, The emotions turnaround, Between the mound, I sleep so sound.

Theory of Attraction

I have a theory that might be the answer to the eternal question "Why do men always find other women attractive? Why do few women explore love outside marriage?"

A women is the most wonderful creation of God and is designed to attract Men. When men see women dressed well, elegantly sway, aptly revealing, we get attracted. Men see attractive women, who are sensuous and proudly displaying their womanhood, we easily get attracted to them.

On the other hand, men see their wives in boring night dress, not presentable through out the day, and all other daily irritants.

It is a known fact that Men desire attractive, sensuous women. When the intimacy fades, life on bed becomes boring and monotonous, men do not think twice if they get an opportunity to bed with any other woman.

Men reach a point where fantasizing other woman becomes more sensual that actually doing it with wife.

All men need is a good Sex Life, good intimate relation, women taking lead on the bed, being responsive on bed, he expects her to do all that is shown in porn movies.

When he doesn't get these, he is attracted to the imagination that other women could be good with all those!

Women on the other hand just want to be cared, loved, seek attention, seek appreciation, seek support.

But since a Man takes his wife for granted, he stops expressing love, praise and care. Because in his mind, he has lost interest in her, because she is boring on bed.

When other Men showers praises on the same woman, she mistakes it for care and love, and falls in the trap. While that other man is just using it as a trick to woo her to bed!

So, it's just a circle of seeking, all leading to good, intimate sex life!

Same Sex Marriages & the Judiciary

There is a very sensitive case being argued in the Supreme Court, on the Same Sex marriages.

The primary question being raised is - Should a court decide on such things, when the subject has a whole complex societal, cultural impact, and cannot be materials or proof based.

The judge opines "The question of a Man or a Woman is not just based on Genitals, it's far more complex".

Is it something to even introspect? Physiologically, biologically, naturally you are either a man or a woman, period. By all definition the Genitals, the hormones determine your gender identity.

Just because one feels otherwise, can that be the basis to decide gender? I might feel I am Modi, Pablo Escobar or a Wodeyar from inside, does it change anything? Can I demand others to treat me like one, just because I feel so from inside?

Going by this logic, a new born baby should never be classified. We have to wait for it to turn atleast 10 years, for it to say what it feels inside.

Personally I fail to understand this same sex attractions, when all you are trying to do is simulate what you would naturally do with the opposite gender!

Many, including me feel it's just a disease!

A Place to rest

You know my favourite place to rest? It's the place nothing but the best, Everytime I am there, it feels like a nest, That place is on my woman's chest. It's like a playground, I will be spellbound, The emotions turnaround, Between the mound, I sleep so sound.

Patriarchal Society

Our society is built on patriarchy, like it or not. Every subject is driven by men and around Men. Even spirituality and religions are designed to be men-centric, be it the Gods, Procedure, rules, regulations and the Godmen!

And our lust, passion for our religion is strong enough for us to pursue the patriarchy, if religion shouts out men bias in every practice, "it must be right".

There is an artificial feminism that has been making noise in the recent decades, but we all know it's just on the top layer.

Other Women are seen as an object of attraction, and our women are to be suppressed, controlled and protected from other men who are seeing our women as objects.

Any intimacy, skin show in public spaces are considered out of ordinary..because we Men cannot bear the sight of this female freedom, and get provoked probably of the bottled-up longings.

There is a school of thought by few psycho-analysts, that we Indian Men experience the desire to be a woman or yearn for a woman's body, because of the initial intimate and intense affection that we get with Indian style of Parenting by the Mothers.

The intense contact, devoted nurturing supposedly is missed and envied.

Those Corners and gaps!

Who doesn't like the sight of an attractive woman.

Every Man/Boy likes to look back and adore a good looking woman, letch at the corners, and appreciate god's stunning creation.

We live in an era where many Women loves to show off their gifts and flaunt them, the way they dress in the public, those who come to fame as Social Media influencers or the glamour industry. They feel it's obligation to be revealing!

In the same breath, majority of the common women do not wish to broadcast their womanhood.

While some women like a little attention and gaze, it becomes suffocating and agonizing when there are constant stare.

Many Companies strictly enforce POSH to protect women from any sexual harrassment.

We thought some professions like Teaching in Schools/Colleges were safer for women. But I was surprised to hear the challenges of the Teachers.

A Teacher at a secondary high school says even the boys make the teachers conscious by the constant stare at the corners and at the skin, she makes sure she is wrapped with appropriate clothing from top to bottom, to let the boys focus on the teaching. She gets an explicit reminder from all the boys, if even there is a small slip or gap.

This led to the Principal and some teachers incorporate strict dress code for both Teachers and the Girls wearing skimpy clothes on Colour dress days.

We want to be a progressive and not an oppressive society and culture. But when it comes to women safety, we (society as a whole, not just Men) are a society with lot of Dilemma, unsure where to stop, where to define rules, what is normal, what is freedom for both Men and Women.