No Mercy

NO MERCY

BY

MURALI MURTHY

How much does it matter or how much does it cost to be merciful?

A betrayal, lie, cheating, being unfaithful, falsely framing someone, selfish acts, cursing and many such acts leave deep impact and a lasting emotional distress that we tend to permanently either disconnect with such people or keep a lifelong grudge.

The dislike for that person, the strong feeling and urge to hate someone is probably more demanding and unhealthy rather than to let it go.

I have come across people who hold grudge for life and the feeling of anger against someone is so strong that they lose temper everytime they talk about that person.

Can We show mercy and be compassionate, and forgive people, despite they causing "not-so-serious" harm to us.

Will the world not be better if all of us have a large heart to forgive, forget and move on, than being stuck and carry the bitterness for life!

We all build dislike, disgust towards our partners (both life and business partners), colleagues for the minor irritants be it their behaviour, or their reactions. These minor irritants lead to bitter hatredness over a period of time. Each person is different and not necessarily they behave and act to our liking. Can that be the reason to build hatredness?

I have seen couples parting ways, when they think they can't stand each other anymore. And the silly reasons they give as "intolerable" things, it's silly and laughable.

That's the power of hatredness, it's a poison. It's such a mighty emotion that pollute your spirit, health and your own well being.

How much is too much to forgive?

For Ex: A spouse who is flirty by Nature, but not getting involved in an affair?

Or a partner who is physically involved?

Or a partner who is emotionally involved?

Or who is both emotionally and physically involved?

What if the faulting partner begs for mercy and forgiveness?

Let's take a simpler example...what if someone in a fit of rage has abused you and you are upset, hurt and angry. For how long should that person be put under block list!?

What do we do if a person whom we hate for their bad behaviour, been irresponsible most part of their lives, is in need of desperate help, do we shoo them away? Is it right to do so?

The sensitivity and a question of our generosity is raised when that person is in trouble and you are in a position to help.

That's when the question arises - how much does it cost to be merciful and compassionate?

I understand things cannot be generalized and situations are Subjective. Yet, I strongly believe being lenient towards even a repeat trouble maker cannot be as bad as we think.

We will only be relieved and a load off the chest if you start hating lesser people.

However bad that person is, how much ever harm that person has caused, can we still be an angel in that person's life when it really matters!?

I personally believe we all have angels in our lives, who are always there to help when needed. Our biggest enemies, a long lost friend or from someone you least expected, came as an angel and helped us when it mattered, I have experienced it! Ofcourse, the near and dear ones, our good friends are always our Angels.

Compassion is when We are moved by someone's sufferings, even if that person is not someone We like the most.

A suffering or a difficult circumstance that an individual is in, makes us worried and concerned - thats compassion.

Feeling compassionate, showing concern are something that we do for our loved ones and friends, but can the same traits of ours be expressed on someone whom we have hated for a long time, when that individual is struggling. That's where our humane levels are  measured and tested.