Gyan Bhandar - II

A Collective of write-ups on some gyan I could give based on my life experiences

By

Murali Murthy

Are you a Nice person or a Bad person?

Who decides this? Ourselves or Others?

I see many elders in the family and friend circles, whom we see as mentors, motivational, ideal and their life itself is an inspiration. But their own children look down upon them, criticize and belittle them.

If Modi is seen as a Saint, Godsent and a pure soul by one half, other half find him fake, selfish and arrogant.

If Mothers are seen as angels, cows and epitome of innocence by Sons, their wives see the same person as rude, wicked and unkind.

As individuals, we are what we are. It's the combination of perspectives in which people see us, and the experiences we had with the other person that the impression is created on.

The power of words

Words have the power, the ability to help, to heal, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate and to humble.

Instead of pleading "I am blind, please help", what if the blind man says "Seems like a beautiful day, wish I could experience like many of you".

The hurt a mother-in-law can cause by saying "I already have BP, so much salt in food will kill me", is more painful than Salt for her BP.

If the intent is to hurt someone, then miraculously one can find choicest words that can be extremely hurtful.

The difficult part is however, to find words to make someone happy.

Choose the right words and you will not find a reason to say "I didn't mean that".

Anger and outburst

Anger is such a dangerous emotion. I say it's dangerous because we will be at the mercy of unpredictability.

We lose our composure, our sanity and thinking ability.

The triggers of getting angry itself is unpredictable, its a child of annoyance and rage.

The intensity, the fury makes us lose control on ourselves and we feel the blood is literally boiling.

The aggression the anger brings in, is very instinctive that could be due to pent up frustrations, irritants, annoyance, intolerance and impatience.

The violence this instinctive reaction and outburst happens in us could be extremely destructive, be it violent expression or the words spoken!

When the anger subsides, it's as if you feel you were a different person and wouldn't believe it was you who reacted the way you did. We surely regret and feel guilty post the anger episode.

Getting angry is involuntary and reflexive, and usually caused by daily life's stress, frustrations.

Those suggesting anger management tips like Yoga, meditation and who thinks anger can be controlled, would have not probably endured the struggles and frustrations that can make one eternally angry.

It's like saying any nonsense uttered by successful people, be it Narayana Murthy, Jack Ma or a Elon Musk seems Gyan to people

The Rebellious

"My life, My rules",

"I give a damn for others, this is what I am, this is how I lead my life"

"Love me or hate me, I don't care"

Such rebellious path is often taken by many, especially the teenagers these days.

Display of PDA, living an indifferent life, treading a path which otherwise is considered a stigma or a taboo...is it easy to be rebellious? Or is it easy to lead a life accepted by majority?

We need not care what others think or if others are judging us? But....we can't deny the fact that we live in society, amidst people...though we need not try to impress others, it's always harmonious to sync in the society and societal normalcy and broadly accepted morality and unwritten rules.

End of the day, we have to just ask ourselves, are we ok standing alone carrying rebellious attitude or sync in the society and win people's hearts and have people behind us.

Gyandu

When someone gets into trouble or going through agony, a difficult situation, all of us jump and give our "expert advise".

We all become experts and advise on any given subject, be it decision on education, career, be it an emotional or financial turbulence, we feel we are entitled to give our expert advises.

For Love failure, marriage issues, we have relationship advises. For real estate, money matters, we have financial advices. And when someone has health issues, we become doctors.

Now, when we get into such situations, will we counsel ourselves? Do we take our own advices?

Instead of sulking, becoming weak, can we look at our own problems stepping out of our Shoes, and counsel ourselves?

In search of Divinity

We love Rains, but under an Umbrella..We love sunny days, but under a shade..I guess anything that we love will be pleasing if experienced from a distance.

Similarly the Divinity.. it's a wonderful experience to stand at a distance and admire, cherish the divine moments. God and divinity need not always be searched in procedures, rituals, books and Gurus. And as per my encounters with God, he is never the one to say I will bless you only if you follow the texts!

With deep sincere love, belief in him, stand in front of him with the folded hands and pray (in whatever language you and him mutually connect with) for his protection and support, he will cover you every single time.

Instant Karma

Not sure if I am the jinxed one around, or if it's experienced by most of you - the instant karma.

I almost instantly get back in the same quantum, if I cause harm or trouble to anyone.

There are umpteen examples in my life, be it significant events, episodes or minor incidents to convince me to stay away from causing trouble.

Be it intentional, unintentional or even thinking in mind feeling funny of someone else's plight, it gets back to me!

One such small incident, and such things keep happening to me quite often: In a small lane, I was driving my car in the opposite direction, and one guy (seemingly new to driving) panicked and in a bid to give me way, hit his Car to a pillar. And I don't know why, at that moment I smirked at him and moved on.

As I drove 5 KMs further, one nuthead rash driver banged my car from behind causing yet another dent