Does the world change, or people change?
I went to a Dhabha with friends after almost a decade. The ambience, food quality, insects, all other possible shabby things were still the same, but we just could not sit there for long, which we didn't mind couple of decades ago. The discomfort, awkwardness and cringe on our faces.
As time flies, decades roll by, things seem to be different, given the same situation, the perception of problems are different.
There was a time, reading a map during a journey was the most difficult, Now deciding on the playlist.
Fighting diseases was a challenge then, managing mental health and physical fitness is a challenge now.
We loved Lollypop those days, come to think of it now, we were just swallowing our own saliva with flavour.
The same set of friends meet had topics of Girls, Jobs, Marriage, Technology to now on Retirement Plans, Investments, Health issues.
From rebellious to religious, from sports scores to current affairs, from wondering if someone likes me to wondering if I like them.
Control on my own life
How much of our own emotions, happenings in our life, is controlled by us?
How much Love I feel, how much I am loved, depends on how much our loved one, love us back.
The almighty decides what to give, when to give, how much to give.
How efficiently my company delivers to clients, depends on my Employee's efficiency.
How long will I serve a client, how long I retain business, is decided by few in that company.
How much salary hike you deserve, is decided by your Manager.
How peaceful, calm & relaxing my home is, depends on how mindful, sensible & civilized my neighbours are.
Who Am I
Many years ago, in one of those Pub hopping days, I was at a pub with my wife. I came out for a smoke, and found this hippie like stranger smoking next to me. He surely looked doped, I just looked at him and smiled, he smiled back and asked "Who are you?"
I was slightly confused and introduced myself with my name.
"That's your name, who are you"
When I talked about my professional life, he said that's your work, still doesn't identify you.
I told him it's not just work, it's my creation, I am the business, everything in the company is me. He was still not convinced, even when I identified myself with my family, my wife.
By then, We both had finished our smoke and he said "I know you are thinking I am a weirdo, but think through it" and left the place.
That incident is still stuck in my head "Who am I".
The answer could be very philosophical, but as ordinary beings, our work, family, personality, the social image we have built defines us and people identify us with those.
I am still wondering what was that guy expecting as an answer!
Opinions & validations
Our responses and reactions on any topic, news or happenings in other's life, is an interesting psychology to observe and analyze.
When we process an information and react, how much of the processing involves we putting ourselves in that situation? and our opinion reflects how we would react or treat that situation?
The irony is, we always go to someone for opinion, advise knowing it's their solution based on their thinking.
Probably we want to validate if we are thinking right.
The World of Idiots!
I call someone driving in the wrong way an idiot, same guy thinks I am an idiot for showing road rage.
Bhakts think everyone else are idiots, everyone else feel Bhakts are idiots.
Anyone driving slower than me is an idiot, anyone driving faster is also an idiot.
The definition of an "idiot" is subjective to my circle. In my small circle, I am sane, matured and sensible. I become an idiot the moment I meet someone with different perspective to life and world.
The only way one is not termed an idiot, is when they don't have any opinion, any ideology. The moment you have one, you become smart to someone, idiot to someone.
The Odyssey of Life
The transition from learning to earning,
The journey of earning to peaking,
The pain of retiring and sulking,
From being resourceful to finding ways to be useful,
From having no time to love, to having no one to love,
From uninhibited action to introspection,
From being restless, to not knowing what to do apart from resting,
From spreading infectious energy, to avoiding infections.
Life is an Odyssey from being helpful to helpless.
The grace and maturity we gain during the journey, the learnings and life experiences that has chiseled us, is shown in how we conduct ourselves as we age.
The Journey and fate of the Waves
The best way to judge myself, is the way I judge others, i.e from a distance, by seeing myself through the lens of others.
If I detach myself from me, and while I see myself living life and the inner me stands afar and observe, this is probably what I see.
I see myself like those waves in the beach. All noise, excitement, temporary achievements, momentary pleasures, eventually crashing at the sands dull, damp and flat.
Just like those Waves, no objective, organically rise, give hopes of shining but fate is known, crash as the waves reaches it's destiny. The waves might give some fun along their journey to some kids and surfers enroute.
The strange, mean creatures
We are strange, mean creatures...
We lock the Car atleast 2 times after we park.
We pull the door to check, after locking the Main door.
When the power goes, we first peep and check if the neighbour also has no power.
Love affairs in Movies are emotional and beautiful, but Son/Daughter falling in love is unacceptable.
We preach and portray an open-minded, forward thinking outlook in the society, but insist on being traditional and accept no changes at home.
We love when Technology eases our job, but hate it when Technology makes manpower redundant.
We believe and wait for miracles, but doubt the realities of life.
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