A Collective of write-ups on some gyan I could give based on my life experiences
By
Murali Murthy
Spattention
Saw this interesting Meme somewhere, couldn't find it again to Share. But it was so powerful that I still remember the lines:
"Q: Do you need Space or Attention?
Me: Spattention!"
So apt, isn't it...Neither do we want to live in isolation nor do we want to obsessively be cared.
We all need Attention, yet with the Space we all deserve to be in peace.
Right amount and right Mix is the key....be it in relation, profession, Coffee or a Cocktail!
Lessons from Water
Water is the most amazing part of the nature. In all its form, be it the rains, river or the ocean, it's attributed as the most calming, romantic experiences. Water has been the subject of fascination to us Humans.
It brings life, fertility, tranquility, sereneness to this world.
The rhythm of the rain water drops, the glow the rains bring to the greenery, the music of a calm flowing water, the mesmerizing sea view of water touching the sky, the magical mood the waves sets in - all can only help us experience God and Goodness.
The Same water when takes a fiery form, the roar of the gushing floods, turbulent and tall waves, the incessant rains, the lightning can turn life upside down and drown the same poets who wrote about divinity of the calmness of water.
Religion is like water. It is pleasant and gratifying when it is used to serve it's true purpose of spiritual needs of us Humans.
When it is fiddled with and toyed with, and when we humans become fanatics, the catastrophe it creates - is beyond us Humans to handle and shall drown both sides of the fanatic wall.
Lucky to take breaks or a escapade?
"You are lucky to take breaks so frequently, and must have time and money at hand to go on vacations regularly" - A common impression anyone would get when I take a break.
Are these really breaks from work, or a way out to deal with aversion to work, is the crossroads am at.
My bald head should give enough signs for anyone who think I have any less stress, pressure or idle time at hand.
The monotony of managing problems, stress, dealing with clients, partners, employees, the infamous toxic corporate world and the City Life - perfect brew to make anyone sick of it all.
All these thoughts come when I get to relax at such places (in the pics), as I get to wonder "isn't it how my home and life should be" - peaceful, stressfree, amidst greens, no traffic noise..by the way, these are not some resorts, these are homes where people live a happy, peaceful life bound by spirituality, roots, traditions and simple living.
Irony, I have to go back to the same world tomorrow and deal with same old stuff with a Smile on, and look spirited!
Easen the burden
The struggles each of us go through is only known to us and the depth of the pain can only be known by our daily prayers. There are ones who pray "Please get rid off this problem", or "Please help me get over this problem soon" or the ones who say "God, please easen the burden".
Each prayer suggests how much have we accepted and learnt to live with the problem or give up fighting.
It's like a Video Game. As you progress through each Level, the complexity and challenges can only become more harder, but the previous challenges will help you, prepare you to deal with bigger and harder challenges waiting for you.
Future Plans
Q: Where do you see yourself in next 5 years?
Me: On an unending trip, on a never ending road, in a caravan with my loved ones.
Experts of mediocrity
Found this image on LinkedIn, and it illustrates the obvious.
It is unexplainable and appalling to see so many young professionals continuing to be mediocre in the job they have been doing over the years.
Majority in my generation believed in becoming masters in the job we did. And when the same job is done over a period of 5, 10 years, it is but obvious that you become reasonably a specialist.
Being inefficient was not even a choice, with the ambitions each of us had and professional goals we had set for ourselves.
It is saddening and disheartening to see inefficient young population these days.
I am not generalizing that everyone these days are inefficient and everyone in our generation became experts. The trends tends to weigh more in what I come across.
The job market cannot exactly be termed as competitive anymore. Any Tom, dick and harry can get a job. Just put in 3 years in a company, and no dearth of companies rushing to hire you irrespective of skills and expert level.
Just today one of my friend who works in a large MNC mentioned, a junior who was getting 11Lakhs package, took leave for a week, attended series of interviews and used those offer letters to eventually land at a 38Lakhs package!
Now, why would such guys bother to ingrain efficiency, put efforts to better the technical skills or communication!?
Window Seat
5 or 50, at all ages we were always excited to take a window seat when we travelled.
There is something romantic, something nostalgic, something philosophical about a journey with your head popped out of the window, with your favourite music played on the headset.
Be it a train journey, bus, car or a flight, we all love to take a window seat. It's as if the window becomes a reflection of our emotions, it becomes your philosopher, a guide and a friend.
If you are sad, disturbed, it helps you cry...If you are happy, you will find yourself smiling and daydreaming....it makes you think, it makes you become philosophical.
For kids, it let's their imagination go wild and keeps them engaged through out their journey.
The sound of the wind, with the hairs flowing, different smells of the nature, the views keep changing, as if it's a slide show.
I remember our younger days, me and my sister used to fight to sit on the window seat in our bus or train journeys and mom would solve our fight by making us take turns to sit next to the window.
What's your experience with the window seat journeys?
Effective Communication
Sometimes, effective communication is not just about saying things clearly, but in the right tone, with right intent, with the apt facial expressions and body language.
Else, the same words can be construed the way the recipient wants, depending on their mindset, depending on their notions and pre-set ideas.
Interpretation is the biggest mess we all Live in, as we interpret the message we consume, as per our convenience or what suits us.
When the texts from Vedas and Puranas are interpreted differently by pronounced philosophers historically, we can only pity ourselves as we interpret basic conversations in the way we want and derive meaning out of the same words differently.
I believe this is the crux of all misunderstandings between husband and wife, with mother-in-law, unhappy children, clients and partners.
We also hear things the way our ears wants to interpret, depending on the person's image already built in our minds.
Restlessness
The restless feeling knocks on our door every day...
Tigers, lions and all animals in the zoo enclosures walking along the fence...that's Restlessness - helpless and caged.
Restlessness is not always being helpless, it's just the jittery feeling we get:
- Artists just before entering the stage
- Patients while being taken to the OT
- Students before entering the exam hall and on the day of results
- Creative minds and workhoholics when their minds are idle
- People in transition from one stage of their lives to another.
When I said Artists, I meant everyone. I believe I am an artist. Each of us are artists in the art of sales, art of coding, art of cooking, art of managing people, art of caring for people, art of communication!
Natural extinction
A disturbing image and situation indeed. I wouldn't blame humans to have caused this, we just improvised and found luxurious and comfortable ways to lead our lives, with its own Pros and Cons.
I would say earth has just aged and time for a slow extinction.
Now when these 2 bubbles further shrinks and a day comes when we all have to fight out for water and air, who are the ones who would survive/last longer?
The affluent would tend to survive longer...but then, those who can overpower them also would survive.
When we have people around us who are intolerant to even kill people just for petty religious and political reasons, whom we rationales think as plague in the society, whose hate towards everyone else, blind love towards politicians, religions has grown so much so, are the ones who have extremist mindset.
When that day eventually comes, Do we save ourselves from natural extinction or from such extremists?
Satisfy your calling
Have you found your Calling?
Do we go to sleep in the night with a desire to do something that we aspire to do, love to do and the next night we go to bed with the satisfaction and fulfilment that we did something useful with the gift, talent, passion we all have.
Not everyone will have a Calling, a drive to do something beyond our usual life struggles and do things that makes us feel that we did something more meaningful and with a purpose.
Be it the natural talent in sports, arts, humour or movies, some will have their calling that motivates them to break the monotony and take the less walked path.
Some will have a Calling to do something for the society, to help people and urge to dedicate their life for others and social causes.
Some will have Spiritual Calling, Some have calling to build their Dream Business, Dream House or a Dream Car.
Some are born to satisfy their calling, Be it MSD, Sachin Tendulkar, Rakshit Shetty, Sudha Murthy, Narendra Modi or anyone whom we know have dedicated their lives to satisfy their Calling.
So, let's ask ourselves, What is your Calling? Can you devote your time and energy to give yourself Hope, be responsible, and aspire to satisfy your calling?
That tough dialog
While we all love to have a good conversation, not all conversations are easy to initiate.
That tough communication you have to make either when you have erred or the other person has, despite it being very important to have that dialog to either clear the air or to convey the repercussions.
That decision you have taken that you are sure will have an impact on situation or on others.
That professional dialog - be it asking for a raise, communicating lay off, communicating a salary cut, conveying ending a contract.
It is one thing to build courage to initiate the conversation, it is another thing to justify and effectively communicate the reasoning.
Be it expression of your love, breaking up, resolving conflicts, asking for repayment of loan, asking for a favour.
Though dialog is the only way, and can't shy away or postpone for too long, the difficult conversations are indeed toughest ones to initiate.
We have all been there and probably get into such situations regularly, Don't we?
Rejuvenation - a myth
Those amazing getaways, those beautiful weekend drives, that mesmerizing resort that we went with breathtaking views and refreshing nature all around, those hard parties, the weekend Vibes - all are supposed to rejuvenate, break from the monotony, should help us revitalize from the routine monotony at work, with such breaks.
The weekend parties, meeting friends, the laughter, family time, the romantic weekend times - should give us new energy and the vigour to get back to work on a Monday and endure the grind.
Each time I take a break or party hard over the weekends, the Mondays still doesn't sound exciting.
It probably hurts more to get back to work. I would rather be sober and stay home relaxing the muscles and my back, which would save some energy to get back to work on Mondays.
It's a different story that for many of us, weekend doesn't mean No Work. It's just that we have to choose to shut the Laptop and stop seeing mails/calls.
What do you all do to beat your Monday Blues? Or do you really get one at all? Does trips, getaways, weekend parties really help you rejuvenate?
Nostalgia
Each time we go out on a trip with a group of friends, the music played usually starts with the latest hits. As we all settle in and get comfortable, the entire gang gets charged and pumped only when the 90s songs are played, and everyone hums along.
I thought this is the choice and behaviour of this group only. But when I went out with few other old friends group, it was deja vu!
Our liking towards anything, mindset, principles and timeline seem to get stuck in the golden time which we might have had.
Those music that we listened during our younger days, are still our favourites and the playlist will hardly change even after years.
Each time I sit and talk with elders, they drag you to the scene way back to 70s even without your knowledge.
I know a young lady who goes and whines about in-law problem with an elderly lady, and irony, the old lady starts complaining about the pains she endured during her 1 Year stay with her in-laws, way back in 60s.
Whenever we hear sad/emotional songs, it unavoidably time-travels you back to the first love.
The conversations when old-time friends, or cousins catch up, smoothly butters into the good times we spent years ago.
There are certain memories and a golden timeline we all like to be stuck, don't we?
Topics to write
I don't look for topics to write, I don't have a set pattern, agenda, content, purpose, aim to achieve with my writings.
Writing is never imaginary.. Writings represents the thoughts, perspectives based on what I see, observe, hear.
What is imaginary is probably how people consume the content based on their own perspectives.
It is important to have an opinion on everything and voice it out. Whether people give a damn to my opinion, is about how I present it as a writer.
Writing has given me the ability to see the same subject with multiple perspectives.
I don't write for everyone to read, writing has become an indispensable compulsion to narrate all the thought flows.
It's between what we do, what we like to do and what we are expected to do!
Elderly quests
When you have the uncanny ability to be upset and unhappy with everything and anything that's happening with you, around you, you will remain an unsatisfied soul and without your knowledge, you become a pessimist and a bad person!
This is true especially with the elderly...as they tend to think more emotionally, than logically.
Put them in all possible scenarios for a given situation, they will find faults and complain!
Exceptions and one bad example is enough for them to set that as a benchmark.
For Ex: our Apartment terrace is locked now, just because there was one incident of someone, somewhere committing suicide by jumping off the Terrace!
While we learn many things from the elders, we also need to learn how not to be, when we age!
We need to find a way to beat the feeling of insecurity, loneliness and keep ourselves occupied to make ourselves a better next generation's older generation.
What's in store for us?
If we could answer this or get answer for this, would we be any better or would that change the way we lead or see life?
We all deal with life as if we have complete control on it and feel life is going exactly as we planned.
We feel we have taken steps that yields us our desired results.
Why did that other person who almost followed same steps failed and only you succeeded?
Something is working for us, some unknown hand is making things fall on our plate, which we think is because of our efforts.
Though the measure of happiness, measure of success, measure of failure is determined by the most common parameter - MONEY, the time we either endure pain, struggle or relish good things in life is rather just phase of life.
If happiness and success is subjective, so are struggles and failures.
More than it being uncertain, it's the pre-planned fate that's working behind the scenes.
One who say I am done with life and waiting to depart (especially oldies) or the ones who wish to live longer, is not their call! All have to just patiently live through what's in store for us.
How old are you?
Does our age really depend on the number?
Our thinking, wants, needs, attitude, taste and approach depends on our upbringing, environment. Two people of same generation living in the same City, lead different lives and their worlds are completely different, as their financial state and financial freedom decides how youthful one can be!
As age really catches up, the next botheration is being dependent.
Sooner the oldies realise that they found enjoyment in caring, supporting and providing for dependents during their time, it's best for everyone that they should now start enjoying being taken care of, being attended to and depending on some one...it's just the cycle of life!
Have you ever felt like God?
Some see God in the greats like Lara or Sachin when they Bat.
Some see God in performers like MJ, Metallica, Scorpians, Pink Floyd, Yesudas, Bhimsen Joshi and others, when they are on stage.
Some see God in Ratan Tata, the Murthy couple, Sadguru or other such influencers speak.
I feel when 100s, 1000s, lakhs in the audience sit in awe, being mesmerized and hear to them speak, perform, would they feel they are Gods?
Have you ever felt like being a God with whatever you do at work?
When you talk, give lecture, give presentation, address an audience, cook, clean or just get on with your daily work and that work is not just appreciated, but influences others positively or leaves a deep impact.
Can we be Gods in our own little universe?
Rhythm of life
When you lose the Rhythm, there is confusion, n silence.
When the rhythm and balance is lost, things can be shaken up with no more conversations, no more attempts and lots of stupidity.
When you lose the rhythm and balance, you try alternate options which momentarily feels like a better choice, makes sense, in the pursuit of a normal life.
A better man stays, tries and fights through the sadness and weakness.
An ordinary man chickens out looking for normal life.
How do you attempt to get the Rhythm and balance back? Persistence, untiring attempts, being sensible, sensitive and above all Integrity!
The Full Circle
It isn't often that life decides to provoke and play hard on you, and you feel as if you so much wish that you could be in any place but be stuck in the situation or state.
Things happen, it happens to everyone, sometimes life changing things that makes it hard for you to even recognise yourself who you were once.
It is only upto a point when you hear someone else going through more darker, harder life.
Momentary though, you feel confident to be happy with your own shitty situation.
But again, the monotony of being stuck takes over again!
Hardships need not necessarily be real hardship. It's just the frustrating monotony, feeling of being stuck, dealing with same problems each day, and you reach a point of saturation.
We crave for good things, prosperity and upliftment in life, when life is normal.
But when you are stuck and going through hardships, you only wish return of normalcy.
The stage passes through, and life normalizes, that's when you feel life has come a full circle!!